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Sexual beings pay another price in their human relationships

Sexual beings pay another price in their human relationships

On Desire: Why we want what we want P. 232

Sexual beings pay another price in their human relationships. Their sexuality taints relationships with members of the opposite sex — or, if they are homosexual, members of their own sex. Sexual beings tend to classify the people they meet according to their desirability as sexual partners. A man at a party might break off a conversation with an intelligent but homely woman in order to cross the room and converse with a woman who, though strikingly attractive, hasn’t had a thought in weeks. A woman might refuse the friendship of a man because she suspects that what he is really after is sex — or might refuse her friendship because she fears that it will lessen her chances of being sexually attractive to some other man. Celibates appreciate people not as potential sex partners but as human beings.

Celibates routinely experience a kind of love that the rest of us rarely do. Celibate love isn’t exclusive: celibates don’t let their love for one person detract from their love for another. Nor is their love possessive: they aren’t trying to use or take advantage of the object of their love; to the contrary, they are trying to help him or her. In the words of one nun, ‘To be celibate … means first of all being a loving person in a way that frees you to serve others. Otherwise celibacy has no point.’ “

Strange is our situation here on Earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose

Strange is our situation here on Earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose

“Strange is our situation here on Earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose. From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: that man is here for the sake of other men – above all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness depends.”

Albert Einstein

Unfortunately, all too often, in pursuit of the good life, most men leave a trail of broken relationships

Unfortunately, all too often, in pursuit of the good life, most men leave a trail of broken relationships

“If the pursuit of money and possessions stood alone as an issue, we might be able to rationalize some of our money lust. But every balance sheet has two sides, and the other side of this balance sheet is relationships. When we choose the rat race, fracture lines soon appear in our relationships, and crumbling is not far behind. Unfortunately, all too often, in pursuit of the good life, most men leave a trail of broken relationships.”

The Man in the Mirror, P. 34