A marriage isn’t the deal you make when you meet each other. And it’s not exactly what you promise at church. A marriage is the agreement you make in the silences in between your promises and arguments. It’s the real compromises. It’s the things you know the other person will do every time, not the things they promise they will do

A long time ago, I (Porter) was at a family wedding with my father. Wanting to get to the bar and the buffet as soon as possible, I said something under my breath at the end of the ceremony like, “Whew! Glad they’re finally married. Let’s get a drink.”

My dad said, “Their marriage hasn’t even begun…” Then, as we were walking out, he explained, “Porter, a marriage isn’t the deal you make when you meet each other. And it’s not exactly what you promise at church. A marriage is the agreement you make in the silences in between your promises and arguments. It’s the real compromises. It’s the things you know the other person will do every time, not the things they promise they will do.” “

Stansberry Digest March 4, 2016

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