It takes 43 muscles to frown, and only 17 to smile

From S&A Digest 2/25/2011

In the newsletter True Income, Mike Williams refers to a plaque on the desk of his boss, Porter. It reads, “The best revenge is success.”

If you never make any bad decisions, never lose the confidence of others, have a great attitude at all times, and wish only the best for everyone, you may not need this plaque.

For the rest of us, there is a message. It takes 43 muscles to frown, and only 17 to smile. Similarly, it is more beneficial to pursue positives than feed on negatives. Our heads may nod yes, but our hearts know better – it’s not so easy. But, a life rightly lived is a life that doesn’t bear the pain of a grudge seeking negative revenge.

It is a special moment when a person stops living in defense of himself, stops getting even. He quits calculating and maneuvering; he just starts living. He doesn’t stop listening, he just listens better. He doesn’t throw away his education, he just finds what works for him and does it. He doesn’t stop caring for others, he just finds his love is itself reward enough, acknowledged or not. He doesn’t stop reaching, he just grows what he knows, and passionately seeks for more. He doesn’t cut himself off from others, but he is delivered from a need to always seek their approval. He doesn’t pretend he has no fear, he just learns to walk with inward peace.

I like the plaque on Porter’s desk. For some people, revenge is a terrible thing, a thing of emotional turmoil, perhaps even a bad attitude; at its worst, hatred. No, that is not the Porter I know, and that is not what the plaque says to the wise and to the understanding. A life full of life is success enough.'”

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